Nice people finish last, the nice guy always get’s fucked, the responsible one always catches the most malarkey, the smart kid is left to go at the group project alone…
All of that said, it makes one think that being a dick-hole-slob seems to be the way to go. Put in little effort and receive no scrutiny. Be the bigger asshole and no one will tread on your soil.
How about keep quiet and carry a big stick? You can still smile and be responsible, but the stick reminds people not to take your kindness or superior work effort for granted.
Doesn’t it seem like the nice guy and the responsible guy get the most shit from the boss, significant other and peer?
That’s because people mistake responsibility and kindness for weakness.
Well, let me tell you; that is not the case.
While the good worker might take direction better and be pressed harder than the class clown, it’s because the authoritarian figure knows the good one will comply in fear of loosing their job/opportunity. While the loud mouth could care less and rules only by intimidation.
The same logic goes for interpersonal relationships, just change the figures in the equation.
BUT, (there’s a but)…You can be smart, kind and responsible without getting picked on, falling victim or being taken for granted. Pick up your fucking stick.
Now don’t mistake you stick for a chip to carry around on your shoulder, (and I don’t mean a literal stick either).
Make it known that you’ll give whatever it is your all, but any negative treatment will result in consequence. Don’t tell them what or how, keep some mystery to it. A simple sideways glance, raised eyebrow or ever-so-slight lip curl will do it. Most people don’t want to find out what’s behind it.
It’s all about boundaries. You’re creating an invisible fence around yourself. An invisible, “if you fuck with me you’ll get zapped,” fence. And no, you won’t tell them how hard. Best plan is to not find out.
No one has to be mean, lazy or uncouth. And no one has to take any amount of unwarranted shit because they’re a good, responsible person.
Be that good, responsible person with an edge. And like a cliff, most people will stay the fuck back.
And if they don’t, push them off; fuck ‘em…(not literally, use your head).
So here’s to not getting pushed around for doing the right thing. (Insert fist in air)
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All of that said, it makes one think that being a dick-hole-slob seems to be the way to go. Put in little effort and receive no scrutiny. Be the bigger asshole and no one will tread on your soil.
How about keep quiet and carry a big stick? You can still smile and be responsible, but the stick reminds people not to take your kindness or superior work effort for granted.
Doesn’t it seem like the nice guy and the responsible guy get the most shit from the boss, significant other and peer?
That’s because people mistake responsibility and kindness for weakness.
Well, let me tell you; that is not the case.
While the good worker might take direction better and be pressed harder than the class clown, it’s because the authoritarian figure knows the good one will comply in fear of loosing their job/opportunity. While the loud mouth could care less and rules only by intimidation.
The same logic goes for interpersonal relationships, just change the figures in the equation.
BUT, (there’s a but)…You can be smart, kind and responsible without getting picked on, falling victim or being taken for granted. Pick up your fucking stick.
Now don’t mistake you stick for a chip to carry around on your shoulder, (and I don’t mean a literal stick either).
Make it known that you’ll give whatever it is your all, but any negative treatment will result in consequence. Don’t tell them what or how, keep some mystery to it. A simple sideways glance, raised eyebrow or ever-so-slight lip curl will do it. Most people don’t want to find out what’s behind it.
It’s all about boundaries. You’re creating an invisible fence around yourself. An invisible, “if you fuck with me you’ll get zapped,” fence. And no, you won’t tell them how hard. Best plan is to not find out.
No one has to be mean, lazy or uncouth. And no one has to take any amount of unwarranted shit because they’re a good, responsible person.
Be that good, responsible person with an edge. And like a cliff, most people will stay the fuck back.
And if they don’t, push them off; fuck ‘em…(not literally, use your head).
So here’s to not getting pushed around for doing the right thing. (Insert fist in air)
Check out the blog on it's home site @
www.hihaveyoumetme.com for previous writings and more.
Don’t forget to stalk me further at https://twitter.com/#!/hihaveyoumetme orhttp://www.facebook.com/authorkatemonahan