Well, that was a fancy paragraph. One with no curse words or name calling; I can be civilized!
But it's true, we're highly sensitive to all of the little happenings around us. Our brains are programmed to plug through the big, the bad and the ugly for survival purposes, but when our brains aren't working to keep us cool, we loose our shit.
We cry, we yell, we punch holes in walls or hide in our room, not speaking a word to anyone.
Little things. A friend taking a snarky tone, a significant other not calling when they're supposed to, your hair or look not coming out the way you want, a long line, a person honking their horn behind you in traffic. All that shit can pummel your mood right into the toilet. Make you angry and put you in a mood in which may or may not end up triggering other's sensitive points; and then the ripple effect. Everybody is pissed or crying into their coffee now! Susie has locked herself in the copy room and won't come out. Why did you have to tell her you liked her better blonde?
You feel bad about the office upset, go home, blow off your friend via text, (they think you're mad), and you lock yourself in your room, not taking any calls. You'll call your new boyfriend tomorrow.
He thinks you don't like him, he goes into his own sad land and figures you wrote him off. Your friend lips off to one of her other friends...
So see? Little shit goes a long way. And for what? It's all crap and most of the time misunderstood, misinterpreted or misdirected.
Most of the time it's just people letting off steam, which has nothing to do with you. They're doing it because they, themselves got caught in someone else's crossfire of emotional release. It never ends, see?
So it's true, don't sweat the small stuff.
Sure, it's okay to be sensitive, just don't take that shit to heart. Take it in, look at it, realize it's not you and put the baggage down, no need to carry it with you. Let it go. Sure it upset you, but it wasn't meant to. We read way too much into the little things.
The snubbed looks, the horn honk, the lack of response or call. Most of it has nothing to do with us.
When I was little I used to think people were talking about me or would notice an imperfection or that if they were mad, think it was my fault.
It was my mother who informed me that people are way to wrapped up in their own heads and lives to be worrying about me, and that 90% of the time it had nothing to do with me.
And it's true. How many times have you been upset and it has had nothing to do with the person who asks you if you're mad at them?
So next time you're about to let your sensitive side take over and take the blame or pick up the baggage, check that shit. Analyze it. Does it really have to do with you? 90% says no.
So let it go and don't let your day get smashed by someone else's unchecked emotions.
Sensitive is fine, but being a pussy is not. Get real and get going.
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